Having a crush can be one of the most painful experiences of young adulthood, especially when the person is out of reach. Letting go and moving on is a process, but you can do it if you’re really determined to put your crush behind you and to move on. How can you get over it?


1. Accept Your Feelings

Pretending to yourself that you do not feel anything is just a waste of time. You have to acknowledge your feelings first, so you can get over them. You could even write down how you feel on your phone or a piece of paper, this will help you relieve some of the emotions, write till you are spent.

2. Speak To Friends and Family

Speak with someone you are close to. Ask a friend or family member for help. Most people can sympathize with love on some level, and they might be able to tell you about their own experiences overcoming a crush. The advice you might get, could go a long way. And even just opening up to someone else can help.

3. Acknowledge Defeat

Maybe the person is way older than you, in a relationship, or is inaccessible in some other way, it is important to avoid self deceit and acknowledged defeat to yourself. Don’t confuse this with personal failure. The fact that you can’t be with your crush has nothingto do with your inherent self-worth. Relationships don’t work out for a multitude of reasons, and most of them are problems that can’t be changed or improved. Some things are beyond your control.

4. Avoid Being Creepy

Do not stubbornly insist or resort to stalking. There are times when perseverance morphs into desperation and stupidity. Chasing an impossible crush is one of those times. Let the person go. It makes it easier.

5. Stay Away From Your Crush

If physical distance is possible, by all means stay away from your crush. Avoid places where you might meet, at least until you heal properly.But in cases where physical distance is not possible, then you can make your self less available and spend as little time as possible chatting or talking. Focus on school and other things and people.

6. Make a new friend/friends

Focusing on your attention on other people can help you get over the crush more quickly. Find people who share your hobbies. Making new friends will distract you from your current misery, boost your confidence, and might even lead you to someone who’s a better match for you.

7. Improve Yourself

Take care of yourself by doing something for yourself. Focus on your hobbies, looks, and so on. Work out. Exercise clears the mind — when you’re so focused on pushing your body, you can’t afford to worry about much else besides breathing and moving. Take up running, swimming, biking, or another activity that can both improve your body and de-junk your mind.

8. Do not become hateful

There is a thin line between love and hate. Therefore avoid becoming bitter with the person, this will be damaging to you in the long run. Thinking about how much you hate someone is still a way of obsessing over him or her, so you’re functionally stuck at square one.

9. Avoid a Relapse

Like someone getting over an addiction, you have to be wary of relapsing. Getting over a crush is hard work, and if it took you several months to become infatuated, it might take long to dig yourself back out. Accept that it’s a process, and plan ahead so you won’t be derailed by a sudden relapse.

10. Travel


Take a trip out of your immediate environment. See new people and new experiences. Soon you will heal.

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Following these your android device data consumption will be reduced by 90%.

1. Stop or disable Unwanted Sync options.
2. Using the data saver option in Browser (Chrome).
3. Use of Data Monitor Applications.
4. Set cellular data limit.
5. Restrict background data.
6. Identify the applications that are sucking your data.
7. Set application updates to Wi-Fi Only

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A few days ago, singer Omawumi released her own cover of Adele's hit song 'Hello' and Sean Tizzle seemed to think that Omawunmi sang a better version of the song than the original singer, Adele. Nigerians did not find this funny and dragged him via his balls. See some tweets after the cut...

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Promises to be a blockbuster 

Popular comedian AY has taken a bold step in his movie-producing career with his new project titled ‘A Trip To Jamaica ‘Another Akpos adventure’. The movie which is the second installment of the Akpo’s franchise is billed to raise the comedic bar set by the hilarious ’30 Days In Atlanta’ which set the record as the highest grossing cinema movie in Nigeria till date.




Shot in Nigeria, America and Jamaica in the last one month showcases Akpos (AY) and his Fiancée Bola (Funke Akindele) travel across the Atlantic to visit family, they unexpectedly end up on an adventure they could never imagine! From Nigeria to America to the beautiful island of Jamaica, this is a movie that is both designed to keep viewers reeling with laughter as well as bridge the gap between Hollywood, Nollywood and Jamaican.


‘A Trip To Jamaica features Hollywood stars such as Eric Roberts and Dan Davies, Jamaica cast of Paul Campbell (of 3rd World Cup) and Rebecca Silvera (Former Miss Jamaica), Ghana cast of Chris Attoh and Nigeria cast of Ay, Funke Akindele, Nse Ikpe Etim, Patoranking, Cynthia Morgan and Ras Kimono. The movie which will surely appeal to the teeming international ‘Akpos’ fanbase is directed by the multiple award winning Robert Peters, and written by Dianne Diaz and comedian AY

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Lol how would you look like  Obama and reason like Obanikoro. How does Obanikoro reason? Some people just have no Chill

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Popular Afro-Brazilian actress Taís Araújo shared the photo above on her Facebook page and you would think people would compliment her her but instead shewas hit with a barrage of racist comments. The first person wrote;

“Who posted the picture of this gorilla on Facebook?”; another wrote “Lend me your hair I wash dishes,” and “I did not know that zoo has camera.”Taís Araújo and her actor husband, Lázaro Ramos, are the most visible black couple in the country where they appear in a national TV show, “Mr. Brown,” a series inspired by Beyoncé and Jay Z. And even though almost 50% of Brazil’s population is of African descent, black people are rarely seen in the media but Taís and her husband are breaking barriers. See her response to the abuse after the cut..



"won’t delete any of those comments. I want you all to feel the shame I felt: the shame to still have people so cowardly and small in this country ... I won’t be intimidated or keep my head down. I’ll continue to do what I do best: work. If my image or the image of my family bothers you, it’s your problem!

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Whilst I’m not a great fan of ‘Yahoo Boys’ and despise them for what they do for a living, one cannot help but marvel at their ingenuity, tenacity and expertise.



In his novel ‘419’ , Will Ferguson talks of a cottage industry of well-educated Nigerians who operate out of dens and internet cafes sending out thousands and thousands of emails, a day, in the hope of snaring a mugu – a stupendous gullible foreigner – and conning them out of all their money.

Never a day goes by that we don’t read about the exploits of yet another ‘Yahoo Boy’ or ‘419-er’ being arrested by the cyber tactical unit of the EFCC.

And the victims ? Another oyingbo mugu looking for love, a white pensioner who thinks he can top up his pension with a windfall, a doctor who thinks he’s won the jackpot and the list goes on and on.

The more these Yahoo Boys are arrested the more these cyber crimes are being committed. It’s as if the authorities are fighting a losing battle with these criminals; you arrest one and another five pop up!

So why is it difficult to crack down on them?

It’s a paperless crime which makes it difficult to track – they’re not bank robbers – the perpetrators are always on the move and greed.

GREED!

Greed on the part of the Yahoo Boys because if perfectly executed it can be very lucrative and greed on behalf of the ‘mugu’. Before shedding a tear for the victims one must ponder on the saying –‘you cannot reap where you haven’t sown’ or to put it another way – ‘there’s no such thing as a free lunch’.

Greed has a funny way of clouding people’s judgement. Even the cleverest person in the world can fall for the charms of a con-artist if they are greedy.

Just the other day I received an email purportedly sent by a Captain James Kirk of the United States Marines serving in Syria. He had found $10 million dollars and needed my help to get it out of the country. In return for my assistance I would be rewarded with the princely sum of $4 million dollars!

Wow! Easy money and all I had to do was send him some details about myself and ‘cooperate’.

But wait a minute, isn’t Captain James Kirk serving aboard the fictional U.S.S Enterprise somewhere in outer space? When did he come back to Earth to fight in Syria? And if my current affairs are up to scratch there are no U.S soldiers fighting in Syria – that’s if you discount the Delta Special Forces – and where would you find $10 million dollars lying around in an improvised country where people earn less than a dollar a day?

Again, I got another email from a Dr Halima who wants my help in smuggling her, her family and her $25 million dollars inheritance out of war torn Syria! Now if she really did have that kind of money she could easily charter a Boeing 747 to get her out without my help!

Greed clouds people’s judgement, when they receive these emails they don’t think. If they did they would have noticed the improbable stories, the innumerous grammatical errors and inconsistences and hit the ‘delete’ button. But a great many don’t and they get conned out of all their money.

Now the second set of ‘mugus’ who get conned the most are the hapless romantics looking for love online.

Call me old-fashion, a relic or dinosaur from the last century but I find the idea of falling in love online utterly ridiculous! What ever happened to meeting someone in the flesh, first, before embarking upon a cyber-dating-whatever-it-is-relationship ?

So hapless in love Miss Whitewoman goes online to find a boyfriend because no one else, in the flesh, will have her. She finds the profile of a handsome man (-of he finds her) and starts ‘chatting to him. Before long, smitten by his eloquent online-flirting she falls in love with him. So when her virtual boyfriend starts demanding money she can’t resist the urge to say no – I’ve heard stories of some stupid women selling their homes to send money to their ‘boyfriends’ who desperately need a ‘loan’.

Now, again how stupid can somebody be? First how can you fall head-over-heels in love with somebody you’ve never seen before in the flesh? And secondly, money and love don’t mix; if you’re in an online relationship and your virtual ‘other half’ is asking for money you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to know what your relationship is all about.

Mugu!

And somewhere in Nigeria a dastardly ‘Yahoo Boy’ is calmly cashing in his ill-gotten gains – making frequent trips to his local Western Union rep, buying cars, building houses and going out with the finest women in town – whilst at the same time trying to evade arrest by the EFCC.

Stay safe online!

Don’t send money to people you don’t know, however good their proposition.

Don’t reply to emails from people you don’t know.

Don’t open attachments or click on links in emails you’re not familiar with, even if they look official.

If you’re into online dating try and get a small little thing called a ‘webcam’ so you can at least see who you’re talking to or sign up to Skype; if you can at least see them throw in a bit of psychology and you can tell from their body-language whether they are genuine or not.

And most important of all try to employ a very simple thing called common sense. If it’s too good to be true it usually is.

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